Are you in a healthy relationship ?

Relationships!!!

Did you happen to land on the page because of its title, hoping to get an interesting read? Or was it  the curiosity of an unexpectedly titled post coming from me? If you fall in the first category  you should  read till the end because its something important and if you fall in the second category you have no reasons to leave.

You may be a person in a relationship, doing well!!  

 Or embarking  a potential one  Nervous!!  

or you may be  the one, who is waiting to meet your someone special  

If not the above, you must  be the one, who has lost all  hopes to find one

or the one who has actually not given it a thought till now

Whichever category you fall in, you will agree that  we are associated  not only with the special relationship about which we are explicitly concerned,  but are also associated with a number of other strings of relationships in life. We are social beings and bound to be in relation with others; be it be our family, The some one Special",   our friends, our colleagues, our boss or teacher.

The fast moving life of today makes it really difficult to maintain the strings in a healthy condition as they often tend to get entangled all the time.  Out of all strings attached we are more  concerned of some relations than the others and  we should be; after all family and friends are so important,  they are the ones who will see us through our happy & Sad Moments... they are the ones we can count on when everything turns out wrong, they are the one with whom we can share our feelings or celebrate our achievements so its important that we put in effort to keep the strings in healthy state so as to ensure our long lived happiness.

Strings of External relationships tend to entangle

The point of concern here is that while on one hand we do realize the importance of the health of these outward strings in order to keep ourselves happy; on the other hand we completely neglect the most important relationship of all; the relationship with self.

Happiness is an internal affairs it has lot to do with our relationship with the ourselves. Its only if we have the inner string strong, that we can actually succeed in keeping the outward relations in a sound health. Relationship with self is important to keep our personality intact all the time when the external impacts tend to change the way we behave. Its important that we take responsibility of our own happiness by believing its not up-to anyone else to make us happy.Strengthening our self-relationship can make an everlasting change in our lives. It is  not possible to create healthy relationships with others when we are not entirely happy with ourselves. And if this is true, how much time do we spend in knowing ourselves?  

Do you think you know yourself more than you know your best friend or your family members? Do you actually know anything more about yourselves other than your basic identity like name, sex, occupation ? And have you ever paid attention to your own feelings and not just others;.. asking yourself How am I feeling ? and why ? 

We aspire to be happy, we aspire for better career without actually asking ourselves what do we want? Confused !!! ....are you? The way to get to know ourselves is to spend quality time with ourselves. By spending some time with ourselves we can begin to access our behaviors, our thought-process and determine the endless possibilities of our personal growth.  Our sub-conscious mind does realize what is best for us but sadly we are too busy in the hussel-bussel of life ignoring all indications coming from within.  Knowing ourselves is absolutely important  for maintaining sound outward relations. 

The image building process has its foundation in knowing oneself. Its only after we know ourselves that anyone else would know us. There are many things of the famous personalities that are known  to such fine details because they do-not behave randomly. They know themselves and have a healthy relationship with themselves and its only after this that they actually have strong personalities  which we speak of.

You should ask yourself: How am I doing? Am I living up to my commitments? Evaluate yourself after any project/assignment/task. Tell yourself what you could have done better, what you absolutely aced, and what you will do the next time.

As with other things, you have two choices. You can talk yourself into success or failure, into feeling good or bad, thinking positively or negatively. The choice is yours, but you can train yourself to use self-talk as a self-cheering mechanism. It is up to you to decide whether the conversation in your head is helpful or harmful. Remember, you can talk yourself out of negative thoughts.

And if you need more than talk, try a little visualization  too. Seeing yourself as successful, seeing where you want to go, seeing how you want things to be you will get there — add that to your self-talk and you can be invincible.

If brain is computer  You need to program it to motivate yourself. Turn off the autopilot and take control of what you tell your brain to do.

Attitude is everything. You must build up your confidence and positive energy. Focus on the best thing that can happen, not the worst. Too many people talk themselves out of good ideas. Let your thoughts take you where you want to go. And have that healthiest relationship with yourselves. Its only then the other strings will get healthier. 

So Are you in a Healthy relationship with Yourself ?